Want to know my favorite part of wedding films? The vows.
In my mind, that’s what the whole wedding day is about: two people coming together with a lifetime of promises to one another. Followed by a party to celebrate those promises.
Custom vows are usually so sweet and heartwarming. They sum up the way each person feels about the other in such a way that often doesn’t leave a dry eye in the crowd (Secret time…I usually cry even at the weddings I’m filming! Because true love is so beautiful.).
The only problem is that writing your own vows can be daunting. That’s why I’ve put together a few tips on how to write your own wedding vows.
Be open with your partner and have a discussion about the overall tone of your vows. Are you both more on the serious/romantic side? Or maybe quirky/funny vows would be more your style.
Either way, make sure you talk about this beforehand so that one person doesn’t bare their soul while the other makes a series of Dad jokes.
2. Gather Inspiration
For some people, it can be hard to get started in writing your vows. But there’s good news: You don’t have to reinvent the wheel completely. It’s ok to look at examples of vows online to gain inspiration and ideas. Just reword them or put a twist on certain parts to make it more personal and unique to you.
This will give you an awesome jumping-off point for writing your vows. You may find that it unlocks some writer’s block as well.
3. Treat it Like an Essay
It’s probably a good idea to make a few drafts of your vows before the final version is complete.
Write a rough draft, read it out loud, then make corrections where you see fit. Even though this isn’t a school assignment, your vows are extremely important. You want to make sure you don’t make any serious grammar errors.
Maybe even have a loved-one proofread your vows just to double check.
4. Practice Makes Perfect
If you’re like most people, you will probably be pretty nervous on your wedding day. I can’t tell you how many couples I work with can hardly even repeat standard vows from their officiant during their ceremony, let alone read their own words off a piece of paper.
That’s why I love to advise my couples to practice reciting their vows several times before the big day. This will not only help you feel more confident with saying them in front of your friends and family during your wedding ceremony, but it will also help create a bit of muscle memory so the words flow easier for you.
Trust me, it’s worth the extra 20 minutes to practice saying your vows a few times ahead of time.
5. Finishing Touches
You will be (most likely) reading your vows during your ceremony. The last thing you want in your wedding photos or video is a crumpled-up piece of paper with sloppy writing on it. (I’m not saying your handwriting is sloppy, but I think you get what I’m saying).
There are better ways to display your vows than a torn up piece of paper. Here are a few ideas:
- Vow Booklets
- Vows Printed on Parchment Paper
- Hardback Notebooks
- Small Notecards